I have been somewhat remiss in relating April's visit with TB The Elder and Mom.
For the first visit, it was myself and my oldest, Nighean Gheal, who had come out early with me prior to the Social Outing. It was the best visit we have had in a long time, and maybe ever to this date.
TB The Elder definitely (from everything I could see) knew who Nighean Gheal was: his eyes lighted up, he was able to speak some sentences that were clear and understandable. He was very engaged in our 30 minute visit. He even showed some interest when I told him what the cost of gas was in New Home, which is a subject we always used to discuss every week on the phone. Mom, was a little more quiet than usual and - as seems more usual lately - had to be reminded who we were in relation to her, but still was engaged.
We saw them about a week later, all of us: Myself, The Ravishing Mrs. TB, Nigheah Gheal, Nighean Bhan, and Nighean Dhonn. My mom was seemingly more responsive while TB The Elder was not (although his nights and the restlessness thereof seem to have a lot to do with it). That said, we still talked through everything that was going on in the Nigheanan's lives and even The Ravishing Mrs. TB (they all do amazing and interesting things; I am pretty bland). For everyone except Nighean Gheal, it had been almost a year since they had seen them.
My father's health seems to be declining more visibly: for the first visit he was in a wheelchair (not the first time that has occurred during our visits) and for the second visit - although they were able to help him out walking to sit in the chair - it took two nursing assistants and even then he looked very strained and unsteady. This was not the case even six months ago. My mother seems about the same as she was when we moved her a little over a year ago, except the memory holes are larger and larger.
There is not much else we can do at this point, other than continue to visit and support. Part of me hates that this is the answer; there should be a better response than that. That said, I also have to remind myself that there really are no better options and the only thing we can do is visit and attempt to manage their legacy as they would have wanted it managed.
Which is not a really satisfying answer, but seems to be all that is readily at hand.