This last Sunday we (I say we - it was really my sister and my brother in law) moved my mother into the same facility as my father. This was where we had been hoping to end up the whole time, it just took us almost two months (and multiple hospital visit to get there).
My mother, from what my sister has related, is doing well with it. She has a roommate who seems as active (and talkative) as she is, so we have every reason to hope that things will work out well.
My father has been struggling a bit more.
He had been much more vocal when we had seen him and talked to him about leaving and going "home". We explained that it was really better if he stayed here because there were people around.
It is interesting - he likes the place well enough ("The people are nice", he says) but he complained multiple times about having nothing to do except sit in his room and watch television. We have encouraged him (multiple times) to get out and do some activities or even just sit out with other people, but he has remained resistant. He has said (again, repeatedly) he would prefer to be back home at The Ranch where people would visit him. We have to remind him that no, there were even less people around there. Here is better.
It seems to have reached a pitch last Friday when we got a call from the Director, letting us know that he had tried to leave the facility twice for different locations (once his [deceased] brother's house, once the fire station). I suspect if you get too many of those, you may get asked to consider "other options".
But we are hopeful that my mother being there will help. She even told him on Sunday that he needed to stay there to help her.
Insurance update: After multiple attempts to get an answer, we have had to resort to hiring someone to write a letter to the insurance company with the specific language to get them to fully pay out the policy, or rather "do what you said you would do". The insurance company apparently now knows that they potentially should 100% cover this and so has been asking their questions and responding in such a way as to avoid getting the answer that would commit them to actually having to pay out the policy - to the point they will no longer talk to my sister about it. Frankly, the whole thing just reinforces every bad impression of insurance companies I have.
On the whole, things seem (finally) to be moving consistently in the correct direction. As always, thanks for your thoughts and prayers.