The assumptions of the Nonessentialist?
1) "I have to."
2) "It's all important."
3) "I can do both."
These are seductive, because they appeal to the way that most of us have come to believe the world works.
In contrast, the Essentialist requires that these three assumptions be replaced with the three core truths of Essentialism:
1) "I choose to." (Choose)
2) "Only a few things really matter." (Discern)
3) "I can do anything but everything." (Trade Off)
As we accept these truths, suggests McKeown, we can pursue what really matters and be enabled us to live in order to give our highest contribution. As we do this more and more, the way of Essentialism becomes "natural and instinctive" - a thing we are, not a thing we do.
This post pairs well with a video I watched yesterday evening on cognitive dysfunctions. The first one was "should" and "must" statements that we badger ourselves with. Like you say, it requires a different way of thinking about things. Not necessarily an easy habit to change.
ReplyDeleteLeigh, it is not. I am very much as "should" and "must" fellow. But an awful few things actually fall into that category. There are very few things that are things that are truly critical (really, the point of the entire book).
DeleteWait until you retire TB, makes choosing a bit easier, ask me how I know.
ReplyDeleteNylon12 - So I hear. I am eager to get the opportunity (at some point) to test the theory.
DeleteJust don't test your Essentialism on your boss. He's going to be in your first three.
DeleteLike most things, these have to backed up by data and results. That said, I think I can make a reasonable case that focus in some areas produces better results than others.
DeleteI've got essentialism in spades, much to the chagrin of my wife sometimes, especially when we are on vacation.
ReplyDeleteHeh heh. I can only imagine what a living with a true Essentialist must be like.
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