Not much to add to this other than to ask the question: If Christ could humble himself by becoming one of us, what right or excuse to I have to not humble myself?
Not much to add to this other than to ask the question: If Christ could humble himself by becoming one of us, what right or excuse to I have to not humble myself?
So, I had the grand, glorious post all planned for today. Sadly events got away from me during the latter course of the week.
"Without great solitude no serious work is possible." - Pablo Picasso
As I read through books written by authors Cal Newport and Matthew Crawford, I am confronted by the suggestion by both that one of the most fleeting of things in modern society is the ability to pay attention, which is generally created by 1) Space; 2) Silence, and 3) A lack of the constant chatter that is the very fabric of our electronic and media modern world.
It is this concept that McKeown picks up on in the Exploring portion of Essentialism, specifically "Escape". The subtitle of this section is "The Perks of Being Unavailable".
He starts this chapter with the example of a founder/CEO of marketing company, Conversations, which once a month has a meeting where all employees come together - media free. No phones, no e-mail, no agenda. They simply think and talk. At the time of writing, it occurred regularly on the first Monday of every month and was known by their clients as "Do-Not-Call-Monday".
There are two purposes to this meeting. The first is to give employees the ability to figure and review what is truly essential. The founder also uses it as a litmus test for time spent by employees on the non-essential: "If someone can't make the meeting because too much is going on, that tells me we are either doing something inefficiently or we need to hire more people."
We need space, posits McKeown, in order to discern the vital few from the trivial many. In a world filled with constant inputs clamoring for our attention, that space needs to be consciously designated and designed. Seldom will it just "happen".
What does the Essentialist do with this space? They explore their options.
Exploration does not take place in a vacuum of course. We need a place to explore, something that is set up in a way to allow us to think deeply alone or in discussion with individuals and small groups as needed. For some, this can be consciously designed spaces that are set up in a way to facilitate (or force) conversation like specially designed rooms or areas that encourage thought and small groups or spaces like "quiet rooms" where the absence of noise is emphasized.
We need space to explore and to concentrate on our exploration. This is not so much a physical space (although it can be) as much as it is a mental space where we set aside distractions for the matter at hand. McKeown points to the example of Sir Isaac Newton, who spent almost two years in complete isolation writing what we know as the laws of gravitation and motion. When asked how it he did it, he replied "By thinking on it continually" - "In other words, Newton created space for concentration, and this uninterrupted space allowed him to explore the essential elements of the universe."
When, asks McKeown, was the last time you took five minutes out of your day to just sit and think? Not compose an e-mail or make a list of things needing to be done or replaying a conversation in your mind, but "...(set) aside distraction-free time in a distraction-free space to do absolutely nothing but think?" Not only that, he suggests - but as we get busier and things move faster, the more it becomes crucial for us to build thinking time into our schedules and the spaces to focus on them.
Part of that, suggests McKeown, is simply changing our perspective from our schedule controlling us to us controlling our schedule.
Finally, says McKeown, we need space to read.
Without reading - be it books, articles, journals and attendant thinking and pondering (or some version of listening to the same, given the technological world in which we live), we not only lose out on relevant information to our particular situation and lives, we lose the ability to "broaden our perspective" and see themes of life beyond our own narrow windows. His only recommendation is "...to select something was written before our hyperconnected era and yet seems timeless. Such writings can challenge our assumptions about what really matters."
(Of note, McKeown says he prefers inspirational literature such as Zen, The Reason of Unknown; The Wisdom of Confucius; the Torah; the Bible; Tao, to Know and Not Be Knowing; The Meaning of the Glorious Koran: An Explanatory Translation; As a Man Thinketh; The Essential Gandhi; Walden, or Life in the Woods; the Book of Mormon; The Meditations of Marcus Aurelius; and the Upanishads. It is quite a list).
His final admonition: "Whether you can invest two hours a day, two weeks a year, or even five minutes every morning, it is important to make space to escape in your busy life."
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Application:
I outed myself a bit by indicating that this is something I am already thinking about based on books that I have recently read or are reading. This idea of making "space" was a bit more focused on "making space to do things", but the principle is the same.
A lot of it for me is wrapped up in a lack of inputs, which can lead to silence, which is what I need to think. In my case, that looks a lot like working on shutting down how often I check my phone for everything, what I follow on the InterWeb (it is rapidly dwindling), reducing social media as we have spoken on before, and learning to do activities without having background noise (usually a Tube of You video) going on in the background.
In terms of space, it is having a place to "work", which is the extra bedroom that J the Rabbit generously shares with us. It is also re-starting post-vacation the habits of morning walks in my local neighborhood and middle of the day walks at work.
Reading. It should be no surprise that I am big fan of this, and there is something to reading in the morning that gets things off to a good start. I regularly read the Bible (doing the "Bible in a year" plan). In terms of other readings, I tend to choose things that break into short sections that are make for good organized readings in a week or two weeks. Books that I have repeatedly read in this fashion have included The Art of War by Sun Tzu, A Book of Five Rings by Miyamoto Musashi, An Iron Will by Orison Swett Marden, and The Little Platinum Book of Cha-Ching! by Jeffery Gitomer. I have also tried longer texts, like the works of Epictetus, but having to make a break is the middle of the section make it difficult for me to pick up the next day.
I have also started making sure I find time in the evening (now usually before bed) to do the same exercise. In this case it is reading and taking notes on the book, something I have not really done in almost 25 years. I am finding this helps to round out my day.
I do not know I am quite to where I need to be in getting the full value out of these activities, but I am on my way.
24 October 20XX+1
My Dear Lucilius:
Today I was invited to a meeting.
I suppose once upon a time that statement would have been completely unremarkable; work used to be nothing but meetings, a gathering of individuals for purposes that were undoubtedly important in the moment but 99% of the time without import in the long run. Now, of course, a meeting is an entirely different thing, an exchange of time in lieu of other activities like preparing for Winter or finding food or fuel or worrying about what is to come.
The meeting was in the old post office – you will recall it; it was the hub of activities this Summer, and now (after the fire at the RV Park/bar) remains likely the most recognizable building in town, except for the Old Storefront turned church turned meeting room turned courtroom, which for obvious reasons is likely not a great location for such things. The invite had come from Young Xerxes; it was a fairly generic ask to “talk about some things”.
In the world in which we now live, there are no “things” that are without import.
When I arrived there in the mid-afternoon – our daily sunlight continues to draw itself inwards – I found around ten to fifteen men and women there: some faces I recognized, like my all to recent bailiffs and one or two souls from the expedition to McAdams who nodded acquaintance, as well as some that I hardly recognized more than “I had seen them in town” once upon a time – even years ago when all was well, it was still a small town and one tended to have some kind of nodding acquaintance with almost everyone.
It probably does not need noting, but everyone was armed. This seems to be the way, now.
A set of folding chairs had been dug out from somewhere – the courtroom, someone’s chairs for poker or pinochle? - and we eased into them with all the care that anyone does for a Chair of Unknown Provenance. One of the bailiffs spoke – not Young Xerxes, which honestly surprised me.
We will need to give him a name – Brasidas will work.
Brasidas’ speech was short and to the point. What was gathered here was not just individuals, but individuals representing households – a majority of the households, if numbers said anything at all. They were concerned among themselves, not just because of the events of the last month but because of the fact that a second Winter was coming with unknown impacts – by “impacts”, he meant bandits, he clearly stated – in the Spring. Unlike any of the other areas around them, there was no move to either enter an alliance or even protect the town as whole – still a series of individuals, rent by potentially competing interests as the recent court trial and fire indicated.
For these people represented here, he said, there was no option of picking up to go to another town or an outlying settlement. This was their home, their only home – and they had no plans to become refugees.
They were willing to make a go of it, he said, but they needed someone acceptable to all and of sufficient authority – he actually used the word gravitas, which made the Classicist in me chuckle - to put together a plan and in effect “lead” the settlement. I had marched out to fight the Locust and navigated the court case; would I be willing to do the same thing for Birch?
I sighed, and looked at the faces looking back at me. Some of them I knew, all of them were thinner than they were two years ago. There was lack of sleep and worry on all of them, a touch of anger for all that had apparently not been done on some. And laying behind all of them, the shouting of a courtroom with fingers pointed and a building burned to ash from rage as likely as accidental and a cold Winter with an unknown Spring to come.
“I will do what I can” I responded.
Sometimes, Lucilius, we seek the hour out. Sometimes in spite of all we do, it finds us.
Your Obedient Servant, Seneca
Dear Friends:
Thanks for tagging along with me to Turkey. I am not sure how many entries this particular series has consumed, but it has easily been 75% of a year. It amuses me a bit that this series ends within two weeks of the anniversary of our departure.
As part of our last day in Istanbul, we went back to the Egyptian Bazaar for some last minute shopping. Below is a short movie of what it was like in the alleyways outside.
"The Christian faith does offer moral order, political and social action to help the weak and oppressed, and therapeutic comfort for broken individuals. But if a church or denomination offers only moralism, politics, and social activism, or emotionally exciting therapeutic uplift disconnected from deep prayer, sacrificial commitment, and authentic change of life, it is useless. It is worse than useless, because it convinces the world that Christianity is counterfeit." - Rod Dreher, Living in Wonder
As has been mentioned recently in another post, I am in the process of largely "giving up" on the bulk of social media for two reasons. The secondary and therefore less meaningful reason (for this post) is that it simply does not add anything meaningful to my life, is a good way to burn valuable time in a low value way, and represents the "Shallow Work" that Cal Newport rails against in his book Deep Work.
The more primary reason, of course, is politics.
(I know, I know - "TB" I hear you say, "you never discuss politics here." And today would be no different. Stick with me.)
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For almost two months now I have been putting "pause" on anyone that posts anything about the current political situation and travails of the U.S. current day - and to be consistent (outside of any personal beliefs I may have) I have been applying it to both sides of the aisle. Yes, it probably means I am missing actual non-political interesting topics (although see reason "two" above for winding down my time), but it has also cut down on my day to day stress/anger/anxiety level.
But what I find most...concerning...about all of this is the fact that people are becoming - at least in my mind and in practice - identified almost completely with their political beliefs.
Instead of, for some of them, their professed religious beliefs.
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A great danger for us as humans, it seems, is our ability to have a thing or small group of things dominate our lives and thinking. I suspect this is one of many reasons why God, starting in Exodus and really continuing throughout the rest of Scripture, commands us "I am the LORD thy God, who brought thee out of the land of Egypt, the house of bondage. Thou shalt have no other gods before me." He knew that we as species had the ability to focus, but also that we were prone to focus on anything else but Him (And yes, hat tip to the King James Version. Still the most fun version to read in my opinion.).
But not us - especially not us in the modern world. We have very much become a "God and..." sort of people.
I suspect that people like Francis Shaeffer would attribute this to the idea that through the history of the late Medieval period and into the Enlightenment, Western Christianity divorced God first from the material world, then from the physical world, and then as a finally as the operating principle for Christians (Shaeffer does a much better job of all of this; the man really was a modern prophet in the sense of seeing 60 years ago where we would be today. If you have not read him, his book Escape from Reason explains how modern society got here in 93 short paperback pages.).
What modern Christianity has been left with is too often the idea that we can be "God and" something. God and our beliefs become a something that are either bolted on to our daily life or are something that are of equal and equivalent importance.
And it is that "equal and equivalent" that has forced my social media hand.
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The danger is this: when we as Christians let something else become how we define ourselves, we can do injury to the message of Christ and God. When our words, our actions, and our interests come to be dominated by something else other than Him, when all we ever talk about is anything and everything but Him, or worst case we simply somehow fail to acknowledge in any of our practices or words that we are His - we are no longer messengers and servants of Christ, those of whom Isaiah said "How beautiful on the mountain are those that bring good news..." (Isaiah 57:2) and who Paul quoted in Romans 10:15 as bringing the Gospel of Peace.
Our words and our thoughts behind them matter, especially if we call ourselves Christians. But just as we become what we think about and speak about most of the time, so people come to understand us per what we speak about and our thoughts (and the intent behind them) most of the time.
An example: If you were to ask anyone at my current place of employment about me, they could tell you that 1) I like rabbits; and 2) I am a student of Iaijutsu, It is what I talk about. It is what I express I do with my free time. It is what I will happily speak on when given the opportunity.
Rabbits and swordsmanship are pretty neutral or even unique topics to be known for. Politics, a bit more divisive.
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Why, then, am I so concerned about how people post politically that I would pause them?
It is not the people that are agnostic or even atheist that of primary concern (other than the principle, of course) as much as it those that are professing Christians who come to post only and almost completely about "current events". They have, to my mind, sold out the thing of Greatest value - Christ's sacrifice and message of salvation - for lesser things.
To those that agree with them, they will be evidence of the rightness of their ideas. But to those that are politically opposed to them, they have or will have cut off their means to communicate the Gospel through words and actions - because they have put up a barrier to any sort of initial conversation or even the viewing of actions; all will be viewed through the lens of their political messaging.
After all, why would I talk to someone about something personal and intimate and potentially even impactful on the sensitive areas of my life like religion when it has been clearly demonstrated what they do and do not believe about their political opponents?
Perhaps there are individuals that can bridge such a narrow gap. Sadly, I am not one of them.
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Of all of the characters that fill out the New Testament, we really only know of one - Simon the Zealot - who political leanings were - and I emphasize the past tense here - known. After his call by Christ, we never hear of any of his (or anyone else's) political leaning again, certainly in the post-Resurrection New Testament.
When we lose our religion and more importantly our witness for anything, even politics, we have made a deal which leaves us the poorer and the world with one less witness - perhaps the only witness to some person that, without us, might have not seen the Gospel lived out in a way that makes it credible.
And that, simply, is an explanation I do not want to have to make at the Judgement Seat.
If in fact the core mindset of the Essentialist per Greg McKeown is to discern, choose, and make trade-offs on the things that we will "go big" on in our lives, that carries with it the first question: What do discern, choose and trade off for? In other words, how do we discern what McKeown calls the Vital Few from the Trivial Many?
It is here, he says, that a paradox becomes operational: the Essentialist actually explores more options than the Non-Essentialist. How is this possible?
The Non-essentialist gets excited by everything that they touch and tries to pursue everything they touch thus creating the situation where, as we have seen, they simply get overwhelmed by the number of things they are pursuing. The Essentialist, on the other hand, explores options but evaluates them before committing to any one of them: "Because Essentialists will commit and "go big" on only the vital few ideas or activities they explore more options at first to make sure they pick the right one later."
How do they do this? McKeown lists five areas (which we will, of course, take one by one):
- Space to think
- Time to look and listen
- Permission to play
- Wisdom to sleep
- Discipline to apply highly selective criteria to the choice we make
One big difference is that Non-essentialists can see these activities as distractions to "getting on with the work". At best, they are good ideas; at worst, they show indecisiveness and wastefulness. "We have to do" is the mantra, "not be lackadaisical in our activities".
But if you are busy and overwhelmed in our modern "go-go-go" society, posits McKeown, these are the antidotes that are needed to fight the plague of busyness that infests our entire lives (A point, I might add, that other authors I am now reading like Cal Newport and Matthew Crawford would agree with).
"Essentialists spend as much time as possible exploring, listening, debating, questioning, and thinking. But their exploration is not an end in itself. The purpose of the exploration is to discern the vital few from the trivial many."
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If there was ever a person to not slow down, it is me.
I have thrown myself headlong into almost every thing and interest that comes my way. What is worse, once I throw myself headlong into them, there seem to be one of two outcomes: I either cannot let go of the thing even though I am making no progress and have no time, or I find myself completely done with it without understanding why I am. Seldom if ever have I calculatedly thought about the options and possibilities, explored them, and then made planned decisions.
If ever anyone needed to have a structure for exploring options, it is me.
22 October 20XX+1
My Dear Lucilius:
This afternoon I took a walk through Birch.
You could name it a “reconnaissance mission” of sorts if there was need to quantify it and to some extent, that might be true, given recent events. But even now, I still occasionally like to take a walk.
My memories of this town go back a very long time indeed as we came here for Summer vacations with my grandparents; I can remember a time at the Cabin when the outhouse was the only available restroom and how terrifying it was as a child to walk the 50 feet from the Cabin there to use it.
Birch in those early days – from the little bit I can remember and the remainder that is here – was much more of a small “town” than has existed in recent memory, true of so many other towns in this country. There was certainly a mechanic, a grocery store, the post office/gas station, at least two restaurants, some other generic stores (judging from the now-faded storefronts), the Kamping Ground outside the town to which we walked to do our laundry. It was perhaps not self sufficient in the way such towns had been 60 or 80 years earlier, but it was a place where some if not much of one’s daily business could be transacted.
Over time that changed of course, as it did for many such towns throughout the country. Towns either grew in size as they became hubs of some kind of business or became folded into larger entities around them or slowly dwindled into smaller and smaller entities until they became hamlets or even not-towns, just a sign indicating a population and a handful of buildings on either side of a road one scarcely had to slow down on.
It struck me, as I walked down the former state highway and past what once upon a time was main street, of how such things were handled in other places.
In some places – and by places I mean “other countries” – the story was similar; it was clear that the town had been something different once upon a time but was slowly collapsing back into the unsettled lands from which it had sprung. In others, there seemed to be a genuine effort and concern to keep the individual towns as living, functional units – even if they were with short distances of each other.
It makes me wonder now, as I stalked the empty roads with the fading sunlight of Autumn on me, how much of a conscious choice it ever was.
Birch, even in the last few years, was at best in the final stages of decay, a small town of almost no resources (although they clung to their local school built in the early 1900’s and their post office) with a population likely consisting of people grown old from a previous generation, retirees (like myself), or the occasional odd duck that wanted to live a very different sort of life (Pompeia Paulina, Stateira, and Young Xerxes all fall into this category). The lifeblood of the town – such as it was – was in the tourist season where business came through in the form of tourists coming from Highwayville or Little City on their way to fishing or hiking or just being in “The Great Outdoors”. It was likely just enough to keep the few businesses going through the Winter months (except the bar at the now burned RV Park of course; alcohol never seems to suffer).
The Collapse, in that sense, was more of a coda than an actual event that happened.
I walked out to what is the clear “edge” of the town, where the last grouping of houses ends and the wider open spaces of custom built homes and ranches starts – it is about a mile from the edge of town where we currently sit. Turning around, I looked back on view I have likely seen hundreds of times now.
More than ever, such places seem to only have three places to go. One is the route apparently chosen by Little City, is simply to close themselves off and try and make their own way. Another, evidenced by Kentucky City and the hand of the Colonel, is to pull in people as much as possible to try to improve their current situation.
The third, it appears, is us: neither closing ourselves off nor building ourselves up, but slowly bleeding people and separating out until we are nothing but a memory of ramshackle buildings and a faded name on signs.
I do not have a good answer to this Lucilius, nor do I know that I need to have one today as I walk back with the breezes of Autumn in my face reminding me that Winter is not all that far away. But it does point to the rather salient point that in choosing not to plan, one has essentially planned the path of least resistance.
Your Obedient Servant, Seneca
The next day after Ankara, it was time to head back to Istanbul and eventually home.
For our night in Ankara, we were effectively "turned loose" into the street to find our own meal. We wandered up the street a bit and found what appeared to be a "typical" Turkish restaurant. Once we entered and the proprietor found out we were tourists, he could not offer us enough food or hospitality.
Our starters. He insisted we have everything:
After dinner, they served tea from a traditional serving vessel. The water is heated from the bottom part:
Thanks again so much for your patience with my absence and delay in responses (and, apparently, my ability to actually type on small screens without either making huge spelling errors or being auto-corrected to death). It was a great time and, as I realized, the longest time The Ravishing Mrs. TB and I have spent together in the at least the last year and may be in fact the longest vacation we have had without children in 25 years.
In terms of writing it all up, the next two weeks will be finishing out Turkey (if you can believe it) and the following month (more or less) catch-up from Japan and Switzerland/Germany on Tuesdays and Wednesdays while I try to get my thoughts and pictures in order.
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One of the surprising benefits of being "away" is that one can be completely isolated from the day to day news cycle (or at least the discussion of it; every tour I have been on we are very much encouraged to "not discuss U.S. politics", a rule that everyone pretty much holds to). As a result, one gets both a blessed relief from the 24/7 news cycle as well as the rather constant volley/counter volley which has come to constitute virtually every communication here.
While this is not an invitation to delve into politics, it is an observation that the term "First World problems" really is a thing. A lot of what seems to be consuming all of the oxygen in the room here and in the greater "First World" is not a thing that happening in the rest of the world.
Everyone on both sides who is hyperventilating about "the news" should go abroad. The issues that people are concerned with there are quite different from what "we" are concerned with here, or at least believe we should be concerned with here.
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Somewhat connected to the point above, I may be taking a relatively permanent break from Social Media.
One of the outcomes of the election is that more and more people have been posting about such things at The Book of Face. To be consistent with my practices here, I never comment. I also started taking the measure of not having their posts appear in my daily feed - for both sides: I try to be consistent if nothing else. As a result, a surprisingly few people appear in my feed at this point; it is mostly groups I follow for things that are cute or interesting and a lot of advertisements. At this point, it is adding little (if nothing) to my life.
Instapic is slightly better as it is just pictures and quotes (a fair amount of the quotes which I use here).
But I can easily see a day where Social Media is something I used to do, not do now.
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To no-one's surprise more than myself - tomorrow represents one full year of being at my new job in New Home 3.0 (my official "one year date living here" was 15 March). I find it shocking that it has been a complete year, but given the amount of things that have happened in the past year, perhaps less shocking than I might think.
In terms of work, the job is going well. In terms of life - especially with the advent of The Ravishing Mrs. TB here permanently (more or less), I am looking forward to what is essentially the next chapter of our lives.
I also look forward to finally unpacking some boxes and hanging some pictures that have essentially been undisturbed since I moved here.
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Somewhat fascinatingly along with my ongoing review of Greg McKeown's Essentialism, I have been reading two books by Cal Newport - The End of E-mail: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload and Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World - as well as two in the reading slot by Matthew B. Crawford, Shopcraft as Soulcraft: An Inquiry into the Value of Work and The World Beyond Your Head: On Becoming An Individual in an Age of Distraction. The fact that all of these texts with the emphasis on focus, attention, and spending one's time meaningfully and accordingly are not, I think, by chance.
The outer location of my life has changed; it appears the next part is the inner practices of my life as well.
As we have discussed earlier in this series, as the word "humility" is not nearly as prevalent in the Bible as we might think it is due to its importance to Christianity, it might be a useful exercise to see humility put into practice in Scriptures. One of the examples - I hesitate to say "the best" because we still have a year ahead of us - is the book of Ruth.
The Book of Ruth is undoubtedly a text that most of my readers have heard preached on by far more skilled expositors than what you will get here. In a way, it is one of the "Cinderella" stories of The Bible: Poor woman with good heart chooses to support her mother-in-law in a foreign land, meets local well-to-do-landholder who is impressed by her care and devotion to her mother-in-law and industriousness, and marries her. You know, the typical Hallmark holiday special.
Rather than recount the entire story (to be fair, all four chapters of it), I would draw your attention to three instances where Ruth put the practice of humility on display:
1) Ruth's departure with her mother in law
As you might remember, we first meet Ruth and her mother-in-law Naomi and her other daughter-in-law Orpah in the land of Moab. Within the first few verses, all of their husbands die and Naomi decides to head back to Israel, having no other options in Moab. Her daughters-in-law start to accompany her but Naomi tries to shoo them off, pointing out that she has no future to offer them. Orpah goes, Ruth stays.
Ruth declares to her "Entreat me not to leave you or return from following you, for where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God: where you die I will die, and there I will be buried".
To our modern ears this sounds extreme. Ruth is giving up everything she had known - her former life, her family, her culture, her religion - everything - to be with her mother-in-law. She would perhaps die a stranger in a strange land. She heads to an unknown future, purely for love of her mother-in-law.
To go, in love and in support of another, abandoning all hope or expectations for yourself. This is humility.
2) Ruth in the fields.
Once they arrive in Bethlehem, Ruth gets to work.
By Old Testament law (Leviticus 19: 9-10, 23:22), fields were not to be gleaned to the point of every grain. The Israelites were to leave some amount of grain product to be gleaned "by the poor of the land". The grain was there; it just had to be gotten.
And so, Ruth heads out to go glean.
I have never been the position where I was truly desperate for a job, but at least once I was "highly motivated" to get the job I was interviewing for. I only found out later from a coworker that became a friend that I apparently came across as very nervous and a little desperate.
Imagine: You show up at a field. Is there grain there? If there is, can you glean it? In theory yes, but given human nature you are likely to get yelled at (or worse). And even if you can, imagine working under the eyes of the paid help and owners, All to get enough food for a day, so you can go out to do it again tomorrow.
And from what we read, Ruth does it. Without complaint. Without "What did I get myself into?" She works, not just to feed herself, but to feed her mother-in-law, whom she literally has no connection with except the bond of love.
Picking the leftovers of the harvest, dependent on the charity of others, to support someone you love. This is humility.
3) Ruth and Boaz:
Ruth, as the story continues, is fortunate. The first field she comes to is that of Boaz, a relative of Naomi's deceased husband. He has heard of Ruth and what she is doing for her mother-in-law. He encourages her to stay in his field and not risk going to others. He encourages her to glean with his own servants, to eat and drink the noon meal with them - in fact, he makes sure she leaves with leftovers and makes sure she has access to the harvested sheaves themselves. She works like this through both the harvest and barley season.
Finally, her mother-in-law comes up with a plan: Boaz could take the role of redeemer-kinsman, standing in the place of the dead and taking up his legacy. But to do this, Ruth will first have to ask for this.
Imagine, as the text records: Going to the house of the man who has been your benefactor, creeping in after he has gone to sleep, waiting at his feet all night, and then effectively saying "Save us"? Not knowing whether the answer would be yes or no?
Making yourself low to save the life of others (and yourself). This is humility.
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Ruth's story has a happy ending: married to Boaz, she bears him a son who becomes the grandfather of a child named David who goes on to do some pretty big things in Israel - including, of course, being in the Messianic Line.
A little mind blowing if you dwell on it: a non-Israelite woman, through her obedience, love, and humility, enters the genealogy of The Messiah.
You never really know where a life lived humbly might lead.