A Year Of Kindness (XXI): Treat People Like Jesus Died For Them

One of the things that has been continually impressing itself on my mind this year is how I treat people - and when I say "people", it is not the people that I like or enjoy.  It is everyone else, the masses that I encounter on a daily basis and the people who I do not always like or enjoy.  And the people who, although they may actively be opposed to me, are opposed to what I believe.

Here is the thought that has started to haunt me:  Jesus died for them as well.

Now, one can make the argument that just because Christ died for them does not mean that people accept His offer of salvation.  Which is true, of course - but that does not change the fact that He did so for all of mankind.  

But the other reality is that we do not know when people will be saved.  

We never know when someone may make a decision for Christ, what circumstances or word or person may bring that awakening of the Spirit to their lives.  What we can definitively know is that if we are acting like the world or - more d*mning - acting like a Pharisee, we are likely not moving the needle at all.  We are not acting like Christ - Christ, the one who died for all.

I have to confess that this sort of thing is hard for me.  There are some people and some situations that I struggle to see the people that Christ died for.  I have to pray for the ability to see them as Christ sees them. 

I am not always successful in this.

But I have to remind myself that in my wanderings and the years that I was far from God, Christ still died for me.  How can I treat people less than others treated me during that time, let alone God?

It is a bit of a stretch this week for kindness, but kindness is wrapped up in how we treat people.  I think of the sinners that Christ addressed:  those that were truly questioning or working through the words He said to them.  

He treated them with kindness.  I wonder if He thought about His coming crucifixion and how He would die for them along with everyone else.

I need to see - and treat - people more like that.  After all, our Example did no less.

May 2026 Grab Bag

 One of the pleasant surprises of New Home 2.0 is that there are a great many parks (local and state) that are within easy commute distance.  Today's pictures are taken from a park we visited last Saturday, a very nice 2.2 mile hike and done in time for breakfast.

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Not going to The Ranch this month was not as bad as I thought it might be.

More or less, I have been traveling there regularly for almost 6 years on a monthly basis, so I anticipated that might be some kind of shock when I did not head out as I have in the past.

In point of fact, since the closing The Ranch has not entered my mind much at all.  I am not sure whether to be alarmed or concerned by that - perhaps both.  That something that was a big part of my life has effectively disappeared and it has not created more angst at this point genuinely surprises me.

We have certainly had plenty to do here in New Home 2.0 to fill up the time.  Life, it seems, moves on.

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I have been re-reading Paul Rahe's The Grand Strategy of Ancient Sparta series again.

The series starts with the foundation of Sparta in the Dark Ages of Greece and continues down through the end of Peloponnesian War (404 B.C.)  (One more book is planned to cover the Spartan Hegemony 404 -371 B.C.).

Rahe is a good writer and his documentation is fabulous; each book has pages and pages of cited endnotes.  He does theorize some, but only based on sources that he presents so one can clearly see his chain of thought.

The story of Sparta is both weird and fascinating, a state that was a mystery even to the other Greek States of their time and something very different from everything else that existed at the time.  Reading Rahe's theory on why they acted as they did makes more sense now on the second reading than the first, understanding that given the nature of the state (slaves, or helots, outnumbered the Spartiates by between 5 and 7 to 1), everything was organized around preventing a slave revolt and (after the 6th Century B.C.) in keeping the peace in the Peloponnese specifically and the greater Greek peninsula generally.

Understanding the "why" of a thing makes behaviours more clear.

The series itself currently is likely around 2,000 pages plus endnotes.  Highly recommended.

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The Community Garden Allotment continues apace.

I have yet to post pictures, because I am still not sure that anything, let alone everything, is going to make it.  Even now, we have cool evenings and have not really topped 80 F on a regular basis - pleasant for living, maybe not so much for gardening.

I have been experimenting a bit based on what I see other gardeners doing, putting down some small paths covered with wood chips and exposing the soil more than I was wont in New Home - given the temperature change, it seems to be the thing.

I have at least one more set of planting to do, more corn and soybeans and possibly potatoes (my first potato planting was a complete bust).

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One of the things that the Memorial Day weekend brought to light was how much I do not care for my job at this point.

In lots of ways it is still good - the pay is good, the benefits are good, my coworkers are engaging, the work is important.  But having a weekend where we got to chose what to work on or not work on, not having to go in at a specific time or leave late, and not having to argue about the 102 minor points that are part of the job but in the scope of things will matter not at all - all of this makes me yearn more and more to just be done.

I am not there yet.  But these types of weekends keep pushing me farther down that road.

On An Unexpected Price Increase

I have been a fan of the website Thriftbooks.com for at least three years (according to my order history, anyway).  I had used some other used book websites in the past - alibris.com, abebooks, even Amazon - but Thriftbooks drew me in for at least two reasons:  A purchase of $15 came with free shipping and after a certain number of purchases, one began to acquire a $5 to $7 credit to get a free book.

Given that I like to buy books, this made for a pretty convenient arrangement.

I had not really paid much attention when I ordered, other than checking to see that I met the threshold, until I went to make an order recently.  The shipping cost had gone up - not surprising, given the state of the world, and hardly anything to worry about (they ship book rate, so I presume it reflects the going cost).  What did surprise me was that the free shipping threshold had leapt up from $15 to $20 per purchase.  And, somehow, my relatively low amount to keep my "get your $7 credit status through 2027" had mysteriously leapt up from $1 to $71.

An bit of an increase in shipping is manageable.  A 33% increase in the amount it takes to get free shipping seems a bit less manageable.  And while it is fair to say that there is every reason to believe I could spend $71 on books between now and the end of the year, increasing it that much on what feels a like an unexplained whim is actually a little embittering - all the more so because I know the price they buy books back at (the mark up is pretty spectacular).

It has certainly given me pause (although to be fair, my book buying in general seems to be trailing off somewhat simply because I am running out of space).  

I had not anticipated the general economic situation to impact my used book habit. But it seems that nothing is immune from a world of rising costs.

A Year Of Haiku (XX): Whorls

 

Whirlpool of brown,

the snail of Spring slowly

strides across my path.

2026 Japan: Meiji Jingu (IV)

 These two camphor trees were planted in 1920.  They are now known as "meoto kusu" (Husband and Wife) and are symbols of a happy marriage and harmonious life.

We have seen ema, the prayer boards, before.  Interestingly, there were several asking that the Korean Kpop group BTS come to Japan!

On our way back out:

Post visit snack:

2026 Japan: Meiji Jingu (III)

 Entering into the main portion of the Meiji Jingu.  There is not a lot to say about today's post, other than the beautiful woodwork.

Memorial Day 2026

 

(Hat tip, as always, to Old AF Sarge for keeping this day in my memory.)

A Year Of Kindness (XX): Leave A Trail Of Kindness

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We all leave a trail in our life.

We are all trailblazers: every day we move into the virgin wilderness of the new day.  Every night we make our campfire in the evening, the day's trail behind us lost in the darkness of time.

The trail itself is, for the most part invisible, a series of events and encounters and feelings which for the most part are transient in nature (but not always).  There are times we leave physical presence, for good or ill - a gift, a thing built; on the other side an injury, a scar physical or psychic.   But really, we cannot see the trail we leave for the most part.

But that trail never really disappears.

I can recall kindnesses and injuries done to me years ago from the trails of others:  the times I was excluded or I in turn excluded others, the times things were taken from me or I took things from others, words of kindness or ill intent for which I can still picture the sound of the voice in my head and the place it happened.

Every day, a trail in the lives of others.

We cannot change the trail up to this point: it is engraved in the merciless stone of the past with a pen made of adamantium.  But the trail today is ours for the writing:  we can leave whatever sorts of mark we want on the paper of today.  And it lies within our power to leave a trail of kindness, of thoughts and memories that will follow our memory in the lives of others with joy and encouragement and good feelings.

No matter what, we will leave that trail.  And if we are doing so anyway, why not a trail of kindness?

Be The Silly You Wish To See In The World

 

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I freely admit that I am a silly person.

I break into song frequently.  I make puns at work frequently, to the point that people clearly know what is coming at the end of our morning meeting on Friday.  My collection of rabbit shirts continues to grow to the point I could wear a new one every Friday (which is Rabbit Shirt Day) for four months and not repeat myself.

Partially of course, it is simply in my nature.  But partially, it is also a thumb in the eye of the system.

The world - if you let it - will make you serious.  It will make you consumed with rage and the need to react to anything - everything.  It will teach you that everything is an emergency, that fun is something confined to the edges and corners of our lives rather than a central part.    Let it go long enough and it will convince you that silliness is the hallmark of fools and the unserious, not "people making their way in the world".

I have experienced that - I have been those things at one time.  What it did give me was seriousness.  It also gave me a lot of issues I have spent years working my through.

Fight the system.  Be silly.

On An Anniversary

 Today, as it turns out, is our wedding anniversary.  We are now firmly into the mid-30's.

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Wedding anniversaries are interesting things.

If you were to consult your local InterWeb search page, you would find that 58% of couples that were married in the 1990's are still married (42% divorce rate), so already the odds are not great to make it this far.  This is reflected in my own circle of acquaintances:  many of my friends, including some of my most significant (The Director, La Contessa, Uisdean Ruadh) divorced from their first marriage. It is not that any of them were at fault; it is just the way that it happened.

(Interestingly, the same statistics claim that people married in the 2000's and beyond are more likely to be married. One wonders if that is due to the fact that they simply have not racked up enough years yet).

I suppose if you were to interview those marriages that ended, the stories run the gamut:  people changed, a bad match to start out with which did not improve, really bad things (fortunately I know directly of none of those stories in my group), people were bored, they needed to find themselves, etc.  In that sense to me it is an odd thing:  of all the human endeavors that we enter into, marriage is almost universally the one that everyone assumes starting out they will be successful in.  No-one gets married to have a marriage end, let alone badly.

Yet, they often do.

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At this point, I suspect the typical written work would have a part about "How your marriage has survived the years" with "10 top tips" or some such thing. If I think about it, I do not know I have that kind of list at my disposal.

Marriage is hard.  It is lucky for most of us we do not realize how hard it is starting out, as I suspect many would simply give up at the beginning.  Love - or at least the love that seems to start most marriages - will almost inevitably cool.  At that point commitment to one another has to take over at some level.  Without commitment to the other and to the marriage vows, those things we promised, the rest - shared interests, shared stuff, shared pets, shared children, shared life - is likely not enough.

Does God help this mix?  I am a Christian and of course I believe "Yes", but the reality is that there are deeply committed marriages (some that put Christian marriages to shame) that are agnostic in nature.  Certainly the model God gives us in His relationship with the Church models the sort of love and commitment (And forgiveness.  Lots and lots of forgiveness.) that the marriage relationship needs.  And, from my point of view, without God involved I doubt I would have made it this far.

And, of course, a sense of learning what truly matters and what does not, what is worth standing one's ground on and what is not, what is simply the quirks of the person that we married that we chose not see at the time but were always there (I have many of these).

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The day itself will be pretty unremarkable. I have work as I always do these days; The Ravishing Mrs. TB  will take care of some things around the apartment.  In the late afternoon we will go out for a "fancy" dinner at a restaurant recommended by coworker.  All things being equal, we will probably be home by 1900.  

We have forgone the "expensive and expansive" gifts (Thankfully; apparently we are in the "gems" category of traditional gift giving, so this represents a real savings).  Likely we will find something we can do together to celebrate.

Which is fine, of course.  If anything, anniversaries are sign of quiet commitment that lasts, not the flashy commitment that does not.

A Year Of Haiku (XIX): Changing Seasons

 

Can it be that Spring

has finally driven Winter 

North for the season?

Or does the early

Sunrise give the illusion

that Spring has arrived?

2026 Japan: Meiji Jingu (II)

 Both the Emperor Meiji and Empress Shōken wrote a great deal of poetry; some is displayed on the walk to the main shrine.

"Colorful flowers

may well beautifully adorn

the hair of a woman,

but the fragrance of sincerity

is the heart's real elegance"

-  Empress Shōken

"Should one desire

to follow a path of learning

even though busy, 

we can always find time to study

even in this world of ours."

- Emperor Meiji

The torii to the Main Shrine:

Instructions on ablutions (in case you are ever in the neighborhood):

A stage.  Presentations and religious ceremonies are performed here.  My school has done a demonstration on a similar stage at the Yasukuni Shrine.

The entrance to the Main Shrine:

2026 Japan: Meiji Jingu (I)

 The Meiji Jingu (明治神宮) is a shrine located in Shibuya, a district of Tokyo (the area as the famous Shibuya Crossing you may have seen in videos). The spirits of the Emperor Meiji and his wife Empress Shōken are enshrined here.

Emperor Meiji (birth name Mutsuhito, lived A.D. 1852-1912) was a pivotal figure in Japanese history.  At the start of his reign, the Shogunate system, which had effectively ruled Japan for 700 years and left the Emperors as figureheads, was abolished.  The old system of domains was abolished, the samurai removed as a social class, and a process of modernization started.  Depending on your perspective, he either saved Japan from being carved up by 19th Century Imperial powers and brought Japan into the modern world, or oversaw the abandonment (and destruction in some cases) of Japanese heritage and culture. Or maybe both.

The Shrine was started in 1915 and completed in 1926.  It was destroyed during World War II, but rebuilt in 1957.

The land for the shrine was originally a hunting ground for one of the daimyo (Great Lords) that dwelt in Tokyo.  It consists of 170 acres and includes 120,000 trees of 365 varieties.

As we saw at the Tsurugaoka Hachiman Jingu, sake makers send casks to for good fortune for the coming year.

Wine-makers from Burgundy, France also donated casks of wine for consecration.