Tuesday, April 29, 2025

2025 Japan: Ending And Beginnings

During our most recent training trip to Japan near the end of our time, our Headmaster made an announcement:  He was thinking of not going back to where we had done our training for many years and training only in the Tokyo region.  


The statement itself was surprising and even a little shocking - training at that site had been going on for well over twenty years.  After a few moments of silence, we all nodded in acceptance - he is the Headmaster and will only, ever, do things that he feels will improve the art.


It is certainly not as if training in Tokyo is some kind of burden.  Access to the hotel we stay at is much more convenient, anywhere from 20 minutes to 90 minutes depending on if you fly into Haneda or Narita.  The hotel is does everything it needs to - and honestly this period in my life, a regular mattress instead of a tatami mat is welcome.  There are several facilities we can train at, and it certainly much easier to take occasional half day we get during the visit to go see something or go shopping.


Still, things will never be the same.


I am not quite sure when I first knew there was training in Japan - maybe 2014 or 2015.  My sensei attended his first training there in 2016.  I intended to go in 2017, but life (e.g., Nighean Gheal's college) got in the way of spending money on what was not a critical item.  But I finally went in 2018, followed then by 2019 and 2020.  Our first return after The Plague was 2024 and then, of course this most recent trip in 2025.


The first trip - like most first trips - could never be replicated.  I had not been to Japan for over 20 years that first time, and certainly not for a specific task, only a tourist.  Everything - the housing, the food, the very nature of training, the drink machines with their hot and cold drinks, even the showers (I did not use the ofuro, the hot soaking pool, the first year because single sex showers, let alone showering with anyone else in the vicinity, was something I had successfully avoided for the most part growing up.  That second year when I found the restorative powers of hot water, I never looked back.) was new and exciting.


I was exhausted when I came home. It was magical.


There is a rhythm that develops when one was there.  In the past, it had been referred to as "prison camp" training.  And in a way, it could be considered that:  we rose early and trained hard.  We ate, showered, and to a large extent relaxed with each other in a group.  Going outside, even outside the facility and the parking lot, was something that not many people always did, let alone walk to the town that was maybe a quarter of a mile away.  Yes, we were often exhausted but there was also an element of not having the time to do so - and, I suspect, an element of missing out on being with the group.


The being with group, I have realized, is one of the most ephemeral things about the training. It was never something that was discussed, and I suspect many if not most of us could enunciate it as such.  But there was shared experience in meeting these people, spending time with them (we are from all over the world), united by our training and our Headmaster.  In a way, it became much like a family reunion, seeing people once a year that you shared a specific sort of relationship with.


And just like that, it seems it will be suddenly gone.


It is not as if any of that ends, of course.  We will continue to gather each year for training.  The place we stay will be different, the training facilities will be different, but the training will remain the same - I am sure the fact that we are somewhere else will not change the nature or the intensity of the training.  


And yet, something has passed which likely will not come again.


I have mentioned more than once the moments of kairos in our lives, that ancient Greek term meaning the specific or particular moment in time (as opposed to kronos, which is simply time passing).  Training at our facility was inevitably a kairos series of moments.  Likewise, the moment we found out that everything was changing was another one.


I have also mentioned more than once that the older I get, the more I realize that life is just as much a series of last things as it is first things, that if we are not careful we do not realize that things have passed until they are long gone:  the last time we went out to play with our friends, the last time we dropped a child off at their school, the last time we talked to our parents, the last day of seeing friends at a job before the layoff.


I try to be conscious of these moments more often. This one, however, caught me off guard.


Right up to that discussion, there was no reason to question that next year would be as the year past.  We could look forward to the same rooms, the same sorts of food, the same times and types of training, the same showers, the same training facilities.  In a way, we would train much more like typical Japanese students than most foreigners.

And suddenly, all that had happened for the last time.


We will gather in Tokyo next year and hopefully for many years after that, seeing familiar faces and greeting new ones.  There will of course be the adjustment of spending the whole time in Shinagawa:  where to eat (with no more cafeteria, we will have to choose our restaurants in the area; fortunately there are many), how we connect (without a common area, the tendency is to spend more time in your room), using the indoor hot baths and spa (which are reasonable and amazing).  My ability to use the Japanese train system confidently will continue to grow.

And yet...


And yet with all of this, there will come a new generation to whom the previous training facility will only be a story, to pass into the sort of legendary status that such things always do.  Less and less people will have direct knowledge or experience with it.  The stories will begin to start with "Once, when we were there..." rather than "When you go there next year....".

Such is the nature of life.


Someday - if I ever get the ability to go to Japan as a tourist and not as a student - I intend to take the 90 minute train ride from Tokyo to the coast - I can navigate it myself now, I have done it a number of times.  And I may walk from the town to the training center - but I will just as equally walk through the town to the sea shore and the beach that I always saw in the distance but never had time to reach when I was there to train.



Sometimes it is not that things are lost to us in those moments.  Sometimes it is just that we will come to experience and see them in different ways.  And, of course, without something old ending, something new cannot come into being.

And, perhaps in some small way, knowing that participating there in training is an ending and will in some way pass into a new thing in the myth and lore of the school.  


To figure in a myth; that is no small thing.

8 comments:

  1. Nylon126:49 AM

    That aging process helps to recognize kairos rather than kronos TB, new way starts and old way retreats in the mists. Plus too, how many visits over there what with the passing of the years? Thanks for the photos TB and the thoughtful commentary, I always enjoy seeing a small slice of life others live on this globe.

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    1. Nylon12, I think you are right - but even with that conscious attention, sometimes things still reach out to surprise me.

      Perhaps part of my fear is I do not see those "new traditions" always developing - although to be fair, perhaps I am not looking for them the way I should.

      You are most welcome for the pictures. I look forward to sharing them.

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  2. I suspect the smartphone plays a part in this change. In the past, before smartphones, people loved the comradery aspect of get togethers like this. These days, with the rest of the world at our fingertips, people are much less likely to hang around... or want to hang around, when they could be off communicating with someone else. Another angle might be the younger generation is not attending such activities because they want to be nearer to larger urban areas with more amenities. I know we struggle to find people willing to travel our here in rural America to attend something but if you hold it in an urban setting, it generally is well attended.

    To Nylon12's point, there are lots of things from my youth that I wish were still a thing. But there are lots of traditions now that I hold dear even as they too are starting to fade. I think all we can do is to record them, as you have done with this post, and move on to making new traditions.

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    1. Ed, I do not know that in this particular case the smartphone was involved, but I do not disagree at all in your general premise. Certainly I look at my own children and what you write there is true for them. And it is of interest to me, anyway, that in the modern social media world isolation and beauty such as you experience in your part of the world are extolled - as destinations, not as places to live.

      There are lots of things that I, too, wish were a thing from my youth. I have the luck of still being able to to my hometown on a regular basis. Some of the traditions haves survived, others have not. I suppose my only fear is that the traditions of the past die and nothing but the fleeting culture of modern social media survives.

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  3. Dare I ask... What is a Men's Drying Room? lol

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    1. Becki, it is simply a roof with hanging rods and hangers which are used to dry clothes. A forced air heater runs at night and the clothes are dry in the morning. Allows for multiple clothes for many people to be dried; far more economical that using the smaller driers (which only run for about 20 minutes and never seem to get things dry enough.

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  4. A tradition in your life is changing, which always carries it's own kid of sadness. Was there much speculation as to why?

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    1. Leigh, I am not sure. Honestly, proximity to Tokyo might have a lot to do with it - after all, given so many students from abroad, being much closer to Tokyo is simply easier for scheduling purposes.

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