"When your household sits down to a meal,
if you are wise,
you will first sit down yourself,
and then you will be able to serve them
easily and happily.
In your charity to your neighbour,
remember that your nearest neighbour is yourself"
- John of Forde, (1150-1214), Abbott of Bindon
(Esther de Waal, The Way of Simplicity: The Cistercian Tradition)