Marriage is, to me, a funny thing. Were you to have asked me in my early adult years, the assumption would have been that I would get married. I had absolutely no basis as to why the fact would be true, as I scarcely had a serious girlfriend. It was just something that, as I understood it primitively, "happened".
Somewhat remarkably, it actually did.
Our marriage has endured a series of local moves and two major relocations, child rearing (x 3), complete financial failure at least once, three layoffs, and now the death of three of our four parents. All the sorts of things that I could not envision at all when I made the rather hasty decision (trust me, it was rather hasty) of asking her to marry me.
We actually will be together this year to celebrate our anniversary (we were not last year), which at this stage is typically dinner and maybe some other activity - or maybe not, I do have to work the following day. Which is fine - anniversaries are a lot like good wines: occasionally one pulls out an expensive bottle to celebrate, but quite often more pedestrian bottles serve just as well to celebrate the ordinary joys of life.
As my philosophy is not that good, per Socrates above I have to assume I got the first part right.
Happy Anniversary!!! Many more!!
ReplyDeleteThank you very much!
Delete32 years ? Very commendable, congratulations on the efforts of the hard work it takes to remain married. In this day and age, it almost seems as if divorce is pushed on the participants because of temporary unhappiness with the other. With age comes wisdom and some of us arrive on this side with few regrets and many good memories.
ReplyDeleteI hope the celebration of this is a happy event.
Thank you very much Anon!
DeleteYour point is something that I have considered as well - among my own "circle of friends", I am perhaps the one person that has remained marriage (no disrespect to them of course; there are lots of reasons that divorces happen).
I have noticed in my new position - where I am one of the oldest people there - lots of "young" people seemed to be married now, which is nice.
Congratulations to you and The Ravishing Mrs. TB.....11,688 days eh? But who's counting? ..........:)
ReplyDeleteThanks Nylon12!
DeleteIt is odd to think that at some point I know have known her for more than 50% of my life. Odd for a person I did not grow up with.
We will usually exchange a card on the actual day but often celebrate a few days ahead or after when work schedules permit it. We are currently at the 7672 day mark but who's counting.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary!
Ed, we typically do the same as well. For example, I think we are going to a concert tomorrow that will "serve" as an event.
DeleteThank you and congratulations to you as well.
Well done!
ReplyDeleteThanks STxAR!
DeleteCongratulations, TB. We think if we could just know our future, life would be easier. Thankfully, our Creator knows better. Best wishes to both of you.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Bob.
DeleteTruly, if at 21 I had seen all that was to come, I probably would have noped out of most it. To your point, we get what we can handle when we are (more or less) ready.
Happy Anniversary!
ReplyDeleteNow I am wondering about Socrates. He was a philosopher...
Thanks Sandi!
DeleteSocrates was, in fact, not a happy man in marriage - although to be fair, Socrates was probably not an easy man to live with either.
Congratulations!! 32 years, nice! You made it thru the rough stuff, adjustment to co-habitation. Most marriages won't make it that long today.
ReplyDeleteYou made me look up my numbers, ha ha.
June 21st we will be at 18233 days, 50 years. If I go back to our first date it's, as of today, 19577 days or.
1,691,452,800 seconds
28,190,880 minutes
469,848 hours
19,577 days
2796 weeks and 5 days
5363.56% of a common year (365 days)
I think I need a nap.....
Reefdiver - Thank you very much!
DeleteI do wonder what the average is these days.
The number struck me as a different way to present it - to your point, thanks to the InterWeb, we can get all kinds of numbers (indeed, overwhelming).
Congratulations to you as well!
Corngradyoulations, TB!! Verily, a worthy event, especially in today's, "designed to stress test you to failure" rat race! You folks are blessed and you don't take it for granted, well done, and many more for you and your bride!
ReplyDeleteMy lady and I got together around Halloween, '76. 17,700ish days. Married now, 17,020 days, gee, somehow, 46 years and seven months sounds like...less?
Who started measuring decades and years in days?
Thanks so much T_M! I very much do not take it for granted, especially these days.
DeleteAnd congratulations to you as well! I have no idea why the ability to measure things in other than years is now available, but it does help me put things into a different perspective.
Nowadays, it should be a celebration of not just a marriage, but of a relationship. For that many years, it's obviously a successful relationship and a tribute to you both.
ReplyDeleteThanks Leigh!
DeleteYou are right - in today's world, a long period of time of anything is remarkable.