Tuesday, August 12, 2025

Packed Up

This Saturday saw the last of the items that we were keeping removed from my parents' house.

The house is empty, completely empty outside of appliances.  Having not seen it when my parents moved in, I think this is the first time that I have observed it largely as it looked when we moved in.

It is odd:  the remaining items that I agonized over whether to keep or let go - all gone.  It is as if there was never a decision to be made about it.

The house was also professionally cleaned; I do not know that I can ever remember the house looking that clean.  Cobwebs are gone, flat surfaces are dusted, the carpet looks fresh and plush.

The last few things - a set of dishes I needed to repack to make them more manageable, the last piece of furniture - were moved down to the barn for safekeeping.  The numerous keys that were located on the keychain I borrowed four years ago were gone through and compared with existing locks, some to be thrown away and some to pass back to my sister.  The last sets of pictures that my Uncle had requested were taken up to him.  Other than towels and curtains and a single item to be donated to the local historical society, it is over.

In theory there should be no reason for me to have to go up to attend to the house now, although I plan on going on my monthly rounds at least for now:  there are still people to visit and at some point all of the things in the Barn have to make their way to a more permanent storage locker.  

But I have to confess that, sitting in the airport going and coming again, waiting for another round of flight delays, the inevitable shuffle of masses of people on and off of planes and through terminals and getting picked up, made me realize that I will not miss the portion at all.

Maybe some day in years hence, I will look back on photos or think on experiences and feel sad.  But more and more what I remember is the weird twilight of this preparation, of efforts and time expended for a thing that is rapidly passing from view.

6 comments:

  1. With many experiences, when we close out a chapter in our lives, we are already seeing the upcoming chapter ahead and that can help us bridge the gap emotionally. But in this case, you don't can't see the chapter ahead and indeed it may be more like the end of a book which I'm sure makes it heavier on the mind.

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    1. Ed, that is an apt metaphor. I definitely see the end of the book and understand there is another volume, but what series it belongs to, I cannot tell you now.

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  2. Nylon127:43 AM

    Ah TB....... a few more steps along the Path. That creaking noise, is that the sound of a door slowly closing behind you? Right now I can hear the sounds of a large flock of Canadas flying down to the lake. Summer is fast disappearing.

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    1. Winter is indeed coming, Nylon12. More quickly than I could have possibly imagined.

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  3. It hurts friend, I know that feeling of the final goodbye to a childs home.

    Everything else is a substitute, no matter the dressing up we do with fancy talking.

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    1. It does, Michael. No matter what spin what put on it and how it may make the most sense, there is none the less the reality of a loss and a place one will never return to.

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