The Basel Minster is a church (originally a Cathedral) located in Basel, built between A.D. 1019 and 1500.
The Forty-Five
Tuesday, July 01, 2025
2025 Switzerland/Germany: Basel Minster (I)
Monday, June 30, 2025
June 2025 Grab Bag
Sometime this past Saturday, I surpassed 2,000,000 views:
It seems apparent that something changed around the February/March timeframe. Part of that may be that I somehow got linked to other sites (due to the kindness of the owners of those sites). But somehow, based on the nature of the traffic, I wonder.
(As a note, the records only goes back to June of 2010, when I had a whopping 355 views that month.)
An examination of the overall traffic reveals some interesting locations:
But the past three months reveals even more interesting things:
That said, I am sure there are some real views there as well. Thank you to all the actual readers for your continued support.
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My Winter/Spring "harvest" seems complete at this point. Below you see the results: Emmer Wheat, Jet Barley, and garlic (Always, the reliable garlic. It has never failed me.). Other than a large handful of Spinach, this is more or less what I got.
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The Ravishing Mrs. TB and I have started passively looking for a house.
When I say "passively", it is simply looking at some pictures and starting a list of things we would like to have in a house. Part of that is also making short day trips around the area to see the communities, mostly West and North of us, as neither of us want to live closer to the rather large urban area directly nearby or even in the greater area we now live (nice to rent in, maybe not so great to buy in).
In terms of "needs" at the moment, they include at least three bedrooms (we may have one or more family members living with us from time to time), 30 minute or less commute from my work, within 1 hour of the major airport (if we use the "30 minutes to work" rule, it is a sufficient stalking horse), a better heating/cooling system than we have now, and at least one room with a sufficient ceiling height to allow me to practice Iaijtsu in the rainy and cold season inside without our ceiling being in peril. Also highly desirable is some amount of land, or at least farther distance from our neighbors - if I had my way, I would like to have a better garden and try my hand at bees and poultry again.
This is all very tentative at the moment. But it is never too early to start planning.
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You may remember from this past Saturday that my cousin's partner was home on hospice. He had been given two to four weeks. My cousin let me know that death came yesterday - Three days from the final diagnosis.
Live each day well. Tomorrow is not promised us.
Sunday, June 29, 2025
Saturday, June 28, 2025
Changes, Swirling Memories, And Wa
autumn's leaves falling to die
Friday, June 27, 2025
Essentialism (XXIII) Eliminate: Limit
"No is a complete sentence" - Ann Lamott
The disappearance of boundaries, says McKeown, is typical of the Nonessentialist era in which we live.
Technology has not helped this, of course. Even at the time of the publihsing of Essentialism in 2014, McKeown notes that technology had already made more things possible like calendars with Saturday meetings. It is far worse now, of course, in that with the democratization of the InterWeb and the regular issuance of personal computers to employees and The Computer in Our Pockets, we are accessible at any time of the day or night.
But more than just the technology, the fact is that that technology would not matter if it were not for the lessening of boundaries between personal/family and business life - as McKeown, notes, "It is hard to imagine executives in most companies would be comfortable with employees bringing their children to work on a Monday morning, yet they seem to have no problem expecting their employees to come into the office or to work on a project on a Saturday or Sunday."
Boundaries, he notes, are a lot like the walls of a sandcastle: Let one fall down and eventually they all fall down. And it can be uncomfortable, and even job or relationship ending, to say "No" to such requests. Yet Mckeown notes that not pushing back can cost us more: it costs us the ability to choose what is most essential. If we do not set our boundaries, it is not that there will be no boundaries; it is that they will be set by someone else to serve their design, not yours.
Nonessentialists think of boundaries as constraints or limits, a sign of weakness in a productive life - after all, what successful person ever said "no" to opportunity? Essentialists, on the other hand, seeing boundaries as freeing, setting aside time to work on their essential goals and objectives, not the goals and objectives of others.
There is a saying that goes something to the effect of "A failure to plan on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part" - that other people's failure to plan (or in this case, have boundaries) does not and should not mean that I stop what I am working on to address it. And yet we all have these people in our lives, high-maintenance individuals who make their issues our issues, their purposes our purposes, their agendas the things that must be completed (instead of ours, of course). How does the Essentialist push back?
1) Don't rob people of their problems: Problems, it has been said, are opportunities in disguise. That said, not all problems are our problems. Sometimes they are problems of others who make their problem our problem. Sometimes we have to take on that problem (say, at work when my manager brings me an issue that must be dealt with and they cannot); other times though, they are problem which we somehow choose to take on or are saddled with. This can look like a pet project (not critical) that someone else asks us to take on or being asked to review something that is not ready for prime time (you are being used as an unpaid editor) or someone that likes to talk when you critical items to do (to be fair, I am guilty of this).
The solution? Put up fences. Demarcate what is and is not your responsibility. Do not deny people the ability to grow through their problems.
2) Boundaries are a source of liberation: Just as fences keep pets and children in from the dangers of roads by both expanding their total space and putting a barrier between them and traffic, setting up boundaries allows us to be "...free to select from the whole area - or the whole range of options - that we have deliberately chosen to explore."
3) Find your deal-breakers: A deal-breaker is any kind of request or activity that you will refuse to say yeas to, unless such a request overlaps your own agenda or priorities. Know what these are up front so you can easily say "no.
One method McKeown suggests for understanding these is to write down any time someone makes a request of you and you feel somehow violated or upon. It may only be a "minor pinch", but it is likely that this is indicative of a hidden boundary that is a deal-breaker.
4) Craft social contracts: McKeown relates a story in which, at being put with a colleague on project who approached such things a very different way - yet the project was successful and harmonious. He credits this to the fact that at the beginning of the project, they sat down and McKeown defined what his priorities were, what he would and would not do for extra work - and asked his colleague to do the same. They then worked through what they wanted to achieve on the project and what boundaries were necessary to use each other's time productively. As a result, they were able to work on the essentials of the project to achieve it without the typical issues they often arise when different styles try to mesh without being conscious of where the boundaries are.
In the working world, these can sometimes look like Service Level Agreements (SLA): what you should expect of me and what I should expect of you.
The great thing is that limits and boundaries, like with any habit, become easier to enforce and adhere to as they are practiced.
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Application:
I am not very good at setting boundaries - or at least, not very good at keeping them intact.
Being a person who is highly people pleasing oriented does not help. I am forever trying to be helpful (making other people's problems my own), bad at setting boundaries (lest I anger or disappoint people), unwilling to admit I have deal-breakers (see above), and almost never set up social contracts (possibly because that involves revealing more than I care to about myself, or at least feeling that way).
In other words, I could pretty much work on any one of these four areas and be 100% in the game.
Of them, the deal-breaker seems the most interesting me - somewhat surprisingly. I am often aware of that small "pinch". I had no idea it could be indicative of a larger issue. And I am sure, if I thought about it at all, there would be several deal-breakers lying around in plain view.
Of everything in the "Eliminate" category, this seems to be the one I have made the least progress on.
Thursday, June 26, 2025
The Collapose CXCIII: Building Community
23 November 20XX+1
My Dear Lucilius:
Community is hard.
I have been spared the pains of trying to start a community from scratch for most of my life – and by “community” I mean any group which shares an interest or a cause. Most of the “communities” I belonged to were already in existence: I joined, did my part, and then eventually wandered away either by loss of interest or the benign neglect that comes from a society whose relationships are as much remote as they are in-person. In fact, by the time I moved here other than a few long distance friendships (including yours), I was largely “out” of circulation.
Which was fine by me. Given the death of my wife and my slow separation from so many others, not being actively involved in anything suited my position in life.
Now, of course, there is a need to have 50 odd people come together as a community.
On the bright side, the group that has coalesced has some positive aspects that many other groups do not have. They all know each other to a greater or lesser extent. They have all been in this area for some years (or more) and so many of the typical challenges are already known by them – and simply by living in this part of the world, they all have initiative and common sense.
The challenge, as it is manifesting itself, is learning to think as a community. It is easy to talk of community when it is an abstract concept; it is more difficult when your life depends on it.
It is surprising to me that it is a slow process. To me, given the fact that most of these folks have known each other far longer than I have been here and given the gravity of what faces us – not just an unknown Winter, but arguably an existential threat – I would have expected a smoother transition.
People understand the need. People even are willing to collaborate and work together. But there is still this sense of holding back, a sense that this is only a temporary arrangement at best. Another year, maybe two at the maximum. That this is not the end.
I nod my head. I sympathize and try to gently encourage the idea of planning for farther out, that there might still be value in assuming this might go on a bit longer than we expect and that we may very well have only ourselves and our direct neighbors to rely on.
Our direct neighbors. You may be wondering about the “other” group that is inhabiting Birch. So far, encounters have remained few and generally non-remarkable, if missing the cordiality that one used to pay one’s neighbors. There are perhaps 30 people in that group, somewhat mixed in among “us”, but also some concentration at one part of town – for which I am grateful. The less direct encounters, especially right now, the better off I suspect we all we be.
Young Xerxes asked me this week if I had any idea if the two groups would come together. I responded I had no idea if and when that could occur. The circumstances that would create that possibility are the sorts of external threats that would mean a host of other issues, most of which no-one here is currently equipped to deal with – the sort of human invaders we dealt with earlier this year but much closer or a natural event that was devastating in its impact. I told him the best I am hoping for is a separated and peaceful Winter and an early Spring that will put people into the mind of working on all the needful things – except despising each other.
He laughed at that. Spring has not come early for years, he said.
I sighed. A late Spring helps no-one, least of all someone trying to make sure everyone gets to the other side.
Probably time to check in with folks – again – about their situation. And starting thinking about what we can do between now and then for…everything, Lucilius. For everything.
Your Obedient Servant, Seneca