Sometimes it surprises me how emotional distance can develop.
To be honest, I am not really even sure how it starts. Irritation, perhaps, or perhaps even a smoldering anger just below the surface that makes things difficult to discuss. Or perhaps things happen less dramatically. Less shared interests with anyone lead to less shared time and less shared conversations about those things.
And then all of a sudden, you find you are emotionally different.
It happens across all relationships. It happens with family. It happens with those who are friends, sometimes even with those that have been friends for long periods of time. And certainly it happens within the closest of relationships.
It is odd, if you sit and look at it clinically. At one time you find you were the closest of people: you spent part of every day together, shared interests and weekends, dreamed dreams and made plans. This person or persons were an integral part of not just your life, but your everyday existence. You could simply just not imagine life without them
But then you wake up weeks or months later and suddenly realize you have not spoken or thought of them in a very long time.
I understand that people change and perhaps we underestimate the impact of that upon relationships. if the relationship does not grow as the people in it grow and almost natural chasm seems to develop. If conscious effort is not made to bridge that chasm, it drifts farther and farther apart until you almost seem like strangers that never met.
It makes me melancholy, this ending of things. Perhaps it is simply a part of living.
But every time it happens, a little of the magic of life seems to disappear.