And then the life change does not come.
The notification is innocuous enough, of course: "Dear TB: Thanks very much for our interest in our company. We enjoyed our time together and wanted to let you know that everyone like you. However, we have decided to go with a candidate which more completely matches the requirements of the position. Kind Regards, X". And there it sits, blinking on your screen.
You attempt to be somewhat philosophical about the whole thing, of course. Had a feeling it would come nothing. Knew that that the fit was not really there. And, after all, you are still currently employed. You were not really counting on this anyway.
And yet nagging thoughts appear at the back of your mind.
It has happened. Finally. You have been put into a slot that is neither in one side of your industry or the other, but rather a middle ground where everyone feels rightly that you do really do what they do and so, though your experience is "good", it is just not really right. But the reality is that it will never really be right at this point. You can only retool so much - the barriers that always seem permeable have suddenly, almost inexplicably, hardened.
For me at least, I try to take refuge in the fact that God is in control, that God promotes, and that for whatever reason He has determined that I need to remain here. I would love to say that this is a totally comforting fact but if somehow it does not feel so. It feels more as if I have been placed into a holding tank for some kind of opportunity that is never really going to materialize.
So what to do next?
I really have no idea. For various reasons, relocation at this point is not really an option, which severely limits my opportunities. Certainly there seem to be no real opportunities around here, or if so they are cleverly disguising themselves as something else. Another industry? The concern, of course, is the retooling comment above - and its corollaries time and money.
I would like to that somehow all of this is going to end well, that somehow this constant sense of "No" is because somewhere there is a greater "Yes".
I just wish I had the eyes to see it.