23 December 20XX+1
My Dear Lucilius:
My wife has informed me that there will be a Christmas in this community this year.
Even in my short time married to her, I hesitate to contradict her unless I am rather certain of the facts. In the case I tried to point out – gently – that given the state of things, this might not be the year, especially given the weather and the fact that as a community we were – perhaps – just healing.
She pointed to the four candles on the Advent wreath and a fifth one in the middle, to be lit on Christmas day. Being a man of wisdom and virtue, I quickly retreated from my position.
I carefully busied myself for the rest of the day while my wife was away “on errands”. By the time she arrived home in the late afternoon – given we are just past the Winter Solstice, effectively almost sundown – she had that sort grim happy determination of someone that was told they could not do something but went ahead and did it anyway.
I have been informed, Lucilius, that I had “best get my jolly on in two days”.
Finding my role models in the Wise Men from the East, I believe I will comply.
Your Obedient Servant, Seneca
Hope, "Rebellions are built on Hope"
ReplyDeleteSo is recovery from disasters and times of troubles.
So get your best happy face ready friend but keep your friends close.
Rebellions are indeed built on hope Michael, a belief that a better day is possible even if one does not make it there one's self.
DeleteTwo things relating to marriage have stuck with me throughout the years.
ReplyDeleteThe first was a billboard I saw along the interstate in Minnesota some 35 years ago. I don't remember what it was trying to accomplish, only that is said, "Marriage is the only war in which you sleep with the enemy." I am mindful of that in any disagreement.
The second was listening to an old man talk about the secret of his long marriage. He said, "I pick and choose my battles." That has served me well and also apparently Seneca.
Ed, the longer I live and am married, the more I realize that a lot of the potential (or actual) disagreements I have had in my marriage were over things that did not matter at all in the scope of things.
DeleteAnd choosing one's battles is another lesson one learns in life and has application in almost every relationship.
Seneca has learned NOT to spit into the wind TB........:)
ReplyDeleteGiven time and reason, Nylon12, even Seneca can learn...
DeleteLots of wisdom in this little post. Here's my little piece. After all the fire, brimstone, what's right, wrong and debate, the winner is almost always, who does it matter to the most.
ReplyDeleteWe've been together for 49 years, we figured this out "a while" back.
Thanks T_M. Sometimes things matter more to one party than the other, and sometimes we do not always understand why. Better to respect and accept these outcomes.
DeleteI have to say I agree with Pompeia Paulina. If anything, the community needs a dose of spiritual reality all the more given what they've been through.
ReplyDeleteLeigh, I cannot really disagree. Sometimes you just need to take a moment and celebrate, even when it does not seem like a celebratory moment.
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