I agree. Good or bad. I am a big forgiver, and in the past have tried to trust people who have harmed me. But I couldn't keep it up because my emotions always reminded me what they did and it was too much to feel that hurt all over again every time. I've always said that words are basically lip service, it's actions that show me the real person.
It is almost frightening to me, Rain, how viscerally I remember particular moments. Usually it always seems to be the bad ones. Even if I do not always precisely remember the situation, I remember the person and how they made me feel. Especially if it was shame or embarrassment. Those are particularly painful.
I know what you mean TB. The bad feelings are the ones that pop up mostly for me too. It's hard to deal with at times. But it goes to show the power of emotion doesn't it?
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I agree. Good or bad. I am a big forgiver, and in the past have tried to trust people who have harmed me. But I couldn't keep it up because my emotions always reminded me what they did and it was too much to feel that hurt all over again every time. I've always said that words are basically lip service, it's actions that show me the real person.
ReplyDeleteIt is almost frightening to me, Rain, how viscerally I remember particular moments. Usually it always seems to be the bad ones. Even if I do not always precisely remember the situation, I remember the person and how they made me feel. Especially if it was shame or embarrassment. Those are particularly painful.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean TB. The bad feelings are the ones that pop up mostly for me too. It's hard to deal with at times. But it goes to show the power of emotion doesn't it?
ReplyDeleteIt does, Rain. And has served, over the years, to make me far more cognizant of how I make others feel.
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