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Monday, April 28, 2025

A Year Of Living Apartmentally

 Yesterday represented a year of living Apartmentally in New Home 3.0.

(All pictures from the past twelve months)


Had you asked me at the beginning of 2023 - or really any time in the previous 20 years from that - if I ever imagined myself living in an apartment again, I would likely have looked at you quizzically and slowly backed out of the room.  I had lived in houses, either owned or rented, since 2000.  The idea of moving back into an apartment was not even a thought in my mind; in fact, it would have been a step back.  "Rubbish", I probably would have snorted, and gone back to whatever I was doing.

Then, of course, 2023 came.  Lots of things changed.


On the whole, moving into an apartment has not at all been a bad thing.  Part of it is simply the apartment itself:  we are on the top story of a complex that edges up to a very nice residential planned community (judging by the home prices, anyway). The complex is quite quiet and I scarcely ever hear - or see - my neighbors.


I am a 10 minute commute from my work and could walk there if I wanted or needed to (I did once or twice between my rental car being turned in and my car arriving).  In fact, everything - work, church, grocery store, bank, even my gym (located by work) - all within walking distance.  And we are located near the local light rail, which means that things like "the city" are within 40 minutes - or the airport within 80 minutes.  All in all, pretty convenient.


One of my initial concerns was simple the "space" loss, as we went from around 2400 sq. ft. to half that.  Turns out it is not as much of a problem as I thought it would be.  Yes, we had to downsize and we are still in the process of doing that.  We still have things in the garage at New Home 2.0, and another round of things at The Ranch that will need to be relocated sooner or later.  But in the past year I have never felt "constrained" by moving into a smaller dwelling. And it is hard to argue with a house cleaning routine that can be accomplished in 20 minutes.


Things I do not like?  The climate control is non-extant except for wall heaters that probably burn more energy than they produce heat.  Part of that has been combated by portable heating and air-conditioning units (thankfully we live in an age where such things are available and can be shipped to your door).  Part of that has been combatted by the strategy of Paul Wheaton, who recommends heating the space around you not the whole house - thus, I have spent a lot of time in the other bedroom where the rabbits live.  Smaller spaces are easier to heat and cool.


One of the most interesting changes, though, has been in my thinking.


It is odd how realizing that you have limited space and accepting it leads to things like becoming more willing to go through things and part with them.  That is not all there is to it of course: part of it is the realization there there are likely many things that you will never really use again and being willing to admit that.  But having less space certainly helps the thinking process.


(The current 2025 garden - small, but at least I can still grow something.)


Do I think we will do this forever?  I am not really sure.  Honestly given the world today, buying a house seems a little like taking a risk I do not want to take - and do not have to, in this case:  where we are works perfectly for us.  But there are things I want to do and undertake - a bigger garden (obviously), bees, some kind of poultry - that require something more than the space we have here.


But that may be for another time.  It is painfully clear to me that for right now, we are exactly right where we are intended to be.

16 comments:

  1. Being able to accept one's circumstances is the biggest part of contentment. I know people sometimes think contentment is the same as complacency, but it isn't. Which is my round about way to say I'm glad you're doing so well.

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    1. Thank you Leigh.

      There is a certain amount of acceptance, to be sure. But I honestly think the years with my parents from 2020 to 2024 really helped me with that - in the end they ended up having to leave everything they had behind (for health reasons, of course). That has certainly changed my perspective on the nature of places and things and what really matters.

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  2. Oddly I found an interesting quote about contentment of circumstances this AM:

    “I learned to look more upon the bright side of my condition, and less upon the dark side, and to consider what I enjoyed, rather than what I wanted : and this gave me sometimes such secret comforts, that I cannot express them ; and which I take notice of here, to put those discontented people in mind of it, who cannot enjoy comfortably what God has given them, because they see and covet something that he has not given them. All our discontents about what we want appeared to me to spring from the want of thankfulness for what we have.” – Daniel Defoe, Robinson Crusoe

    Maybe I need to add Robinson Crusoe to my library.

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    1. Michael, what a wonderful quote. Pretty scriptural as well.

      I want to say it has been years since I read Robinson Crusoe - if ever. Like you, perhaps a chance to visit/revisit.

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  3. Anonymous6:59 AM

    Once the kids grow up and move out, the need for extra room reduces to having a spare bedroom, maybe another room for home office or working out. Apartments do tend to encourage de-cluttering - there just isn't enough space. Paying for off-site storage teaches us that the contents being stored are worth less than the eventual cost of storing them.

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    1. Anon - Your thoughts track with what our experience seems to be - it would be nice to have a bedroom that we could have for guests separate from what we are currently using for office/rabbit space, but not so much that we need it right now. And the lack of space - really closet space, but mostly any kind of storage space - encourages one to keep things to a minimum.

      I am not thrilled at the idea of off-site storage, but I think for a while it may be merited while we consider longer term what or plans are.

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  4. Nylon127:23 AM

    Space heaters are most helpful as you discovered TB, even in a house. Have one near the dining table which is adjacent to the kitchen, the whole upstairs gets heated to a certain temperature curtesy of the thermostat for that level, downstairs has another thermostat set for a different temp. Remembering to be thankful for you do have rather than what you lack is something that I need to work on, good luck yourself!

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    1. Nylon12, we bought one from the Large Discount Big Box retailer. It really has turned out to be useful; I am thinking for next year we may just get one more and dispense with the smaller space heaters, which are not nearly as effective.

      Perhaps that is the whole purpose of this change: to teach me thankfulness.

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  5. I guess I can definitely see myself living in an apartment again at some point in my future. I won't miss the maintenance required to clean and upkeep a "larger" house at all and the convenience of everything is definitely a plus. The biggest two drawbacks I have to apartment living is the noise, usually associated with wall mount air conditioners, and as you pointed out, the outdoor space for a garden. So I will likely not move into one until I am ready to forego having a garden.

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    1. Ed, it is not so bad as I had anticipated. The lack of ability to do certain things is an issue (as is, frankly, the lower ceilings which make sword training inside an issue). But I begin to see attraction of things like condos - I do not enjoy yard work and so not having to face raking and mowing for a year has been a blessing.

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  6. As I look upon retirement in the year ahead and my wife already being retired, I often ponder the possibility of downsizing and after reading your narrative here, I am more open to apartment or condominium living. I also don't care for yard work, which I feel guilty about, so having no yard might take care of that. As usual, TB, you make me think, for which I am grateful.

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    1. Bob, I have to admit this experience has made me more open to the concept than I was before. I am not sure that it will be right away - we may, for example, need to have my mother in law come stay with us - but the exchange in time gained has been considerable.

      If they still built smaller units, that might be a thing as well - I think this apartment is well above the line of a "tiny house" - but those seem hard to come by.

      And thanks, as always, for your kind words.

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  7. Lots of vegetables grow in containers quite well. I know potatoes do.
    I am happy for you, TB. God bless.

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    1. Linda, I have thought about potatoes, although I think I will need slightly different containers.

      We are doing very well indeed. Thanks for the good wishes!

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    2. I have grown potatoes in 5 gallon buckets successfully. And you find tomatoes in bucket style containers in every sort of garden center.
      Carrots, onions, cucumbers, even 1 broccoli plant to a 5 gallon bucket. Burpee has a sweet corn hybrid for buckets, but the reviews are mixed on that.
      Good luck, TB! God bless.

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    3. Thanks Linda!

      None of those particularly surprise me - except the corn. That truly is a shocker (no pun intended).

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