tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14404262.post545741877386561636..comments2024-03-28T18:44:08.125-07:00Comments on The Forty-Five: Emotional DistanceToirdhealbheach Beucailhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14872794169534403463noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14404262.post-1033799613372752492016-04-06T19:33:18.780-07:002016-04-06T19:33:18.780-07:00I know the feeling. Two of the three of my best m...I know the feeling. Two of the three of my best men are still my best friends. Even though we physically see each other every 2-3 years it is like no time has passed at all. Yet oddly enough, these are the only two left from almost 45 years of friendship. Toirdhealbheach Beucailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14872794169534403463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14404262.post-63145182084328402016-04-06T08:22:11.990-07:002016-04-06T08:22:11.990-07:00You're right about the "where we are as p...You're right about the "where we are as people now"; I should have said it that way. The guy who was my first new friend after leaving the Navy in '77, and my best man in '80, is still like a brother. We don't see each other often, and exchange an occasional e-mail, but we're still instantly close. In fact, I'll be having breakfast with him & his wife later this month, when I travel to the Midwest. Haven't seen him in 4 years, but that doesn't matter to us. Rev. Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04588179227576383679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14404262.post-63090674216068011602016-04-05T16:10:58.700-07:002016-04-05T16:10:58.700-07:00A very good point, Reverend Paul. My corollary (W...A very good point, Reverend Paul. My corollary (Wilson's quote is great) is sometimes when I get together with people I have not seen in a while, we easily pick up in where we are as people now. For others, interactions quickly regress to the last time we were in close contact. There seems to be an inability or a lack of recognition in those cases that people change - our result is to revert to that which we know instead of the unknown.Toirdhealbheach Beucailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14872794169534403463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14404262.post-36905291907893338552016-04-05T07:55:07.999-07:002016-04-05T07:55:07.999-07:00Sometimes it is the absence of daily contact, in t...Sometimes it is the absence of daily contact, in the case of distant friends. Those from whom we can be separated for months or years, but upon reacquaintance, it's like no time has passed at all. <br /><br />Others? Well, it's like Tim Allen's neighbor "Wilson" once explained: "Have you been best friends for 20 years? Or were you best friends, 20 years ago?"Rev. Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04588179227576383679noreply@blogger.com