Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Accept And Unrealistic Expectations

So now that I have these unrealistic expectations, what the heck do I do with them?

This is the other side of acceptance - not just that one accepts the way that certain things are but that one actively works on the expectations that one was clinging to, that one finds something to do with them.  Because they sure do not seem to want to be dealt with of their own accord.

They constantly speak in your ear, suggesting that you are "surrendering" or "caving in".  They try to push you towards success related literature, pointing out that you are giving up perhaps at the point that success is about to become yours.  Anything, they suggest, except abandoning them to the cold.

I have my own secret weapon, of course.  I call it "Failure".

I have remind these sweet siren singers of the times that I did follow their unrealistic promises down the rabbit hole of dreams, of what happened when the bottom dropped out of the hole and down I fell into the rocks.  Of the countless times as a youth I "fell in love" only to embarrass myself horribly.  Or the time I took a position based on other people telling me that I would be a great leader, only to be a terrible one and leave after half a year.  Or the time I was going to be wealthy as Midas and only ended up losing a great deal of money and eventually having to lose the house we never should have bought.

I bring these failures to the unrealistic expectations and point to them, saying "Look at this.  This is where following you gets me.  Off with you now.  Join forces with those things that I can impact.  Or abandon me to whatever you think my fate will be.  But what you promise will never come to pass."

They always seem to abandon the cause and slink away, of course.  Because if one thing is true of unrealistic expectations, it is that they is that they are very proud and demanding.  They would rather expire than join the energy with those things that can be accomplished.


Anonymous said...

What the heck do you do with them?

I read something recently that would seem to have application here. As you wrote it, you would recognize it....

Commit. Drive out all doubt. Drive out all extraneous things. Drive out the hesitation and reluctance. Commit. Strike. Cut with authority.

Understand the profoundness of this moment. Not just in iai. In life. Choose - we cannot all do everything. And then when you have chosen, act with authority. Remove doubt from your mind. Strike every time as if you mean to win."

Commit, my friend.

PioneerPreppy said...

Man your expectations sound a lot like Liberals :)

PeteForester1 said...

We may be among the smallest gears in the Swiss watch of history, but without us, even the mainspring isn't worth a damn!

Ask God what HE wants from you, and go from there...

Toirdhealbheach Beucail said...

Oh, I do not know that it is specific to liberals Preppy. I think it applies to a lot of spoiled Conservatives too, if you look at it. The reality is anything that rates itself as the most important thing and utterly demands all attention falls into this category in my world.

Toirdhealbheach Beucail said...

Wise words Pete, and what I am trying to do. To the quote above, remove the extraneous and commit to the central things.

Toirdhealbheach Beucail said...

It is true (even if I did write it). The cut with authority seems to apply here with especial force. To get to the heart of the matter, to cut all extraneous items - even those unrealistic expectations - and commit.

Thanks for calling me back to myself.